All the Single Ladies

As I was scrolling through different podcasts the other day, I came across one titled “Singleness, Dating, Love, and Marriage.” It was from UA’s The Well series and having spent many Wednesday nights at those services as an undergrad at UA, I thought I would take a trip down memory lane and listen to this message.

As promised it talked about each topic, starting with singleness and I heard that verse from 1 Corinthians 7 that always makes me cringe.

“8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.” 1 Corinthians 7:8

Let me start off by saying that being single at the age of 26 was definitely not what I had planned for my life. I have always wanted to find someone to settle down with and have a family and often times I have found it frustrating, and quite honestly, disheartening to still be in this waiting phase. ( And no, this is not a way of saying I’m desperate to go out with anyone.)

But having grown up in church all my life I have heard it all…

“God knows what He’s doing.”

“Just focus on your relationship with Him first and then He will send the right one.”

“Just be patient.”

Now let me be clear, I have no doubt that God’s plans are perfect but the hurt is real when I see most of my friends with spouses and families of their own. I am left feeling forgotten and looked over.

It’s in these moments that my imperfectness and impatience tend to cloud that  bigger picture God has for my life.

I want to have faith that everything is going to work out the way I imagine but I also just want a clear audible voice with a play by play telling me exactly how to get there. And it’s in doing this that I realize how shallow my faith can be.

Why is it I can trust God with my life eternally but I have trouble trusting him with this detail of my life?

I think back to when Joseph spent all those years behind bars for a crime he didn’t commit.

Or when the Israelites roamed the desert for 40 years due to their stubborness and disobedience.

Let’s not forget when Daniel was thrown into a den of varocious, hungry lions.

These people had doubts and fears but they also had the same God you and I do if you call Him your Savior and Lord. He promises to deliver us just as He delivered them and despite my impatience, I have known my God to be faithful and true time and time again.

I don’t know if you can relate to this at all. Maybe your journey is similar to mine or maybe it’s something different altogether but I think we can all agree that we all have that “something” we have surrendered but all too often find ourselves picking back up and trying to fix on our own.

I would love to hear your take on this and even hear what God has done in your life to show you that He indeed makes everything perfect in His time!


Dear Younger Me

I read a quote this morning that said, “Time has a wonderful way of showing us what matters.” It was really fitting seeing as how I spent the majority of the morning looking at pictures. From my baby book to my Senior book (and yes, even Facebook) I took the time to really look at each picture.  Seeing pictures of Nanny and Papoo holding me when I came home from the hospital made my heart ache because I miss them so much. Seeing our young family without all the cousins that would come in the future makes me wonder how I ever lived without them. I smiled at the goofy things I did as a child and reminisced about how carefree my childhood was.

Flash forward to school years and the many friends that have come and gone. Some only stayed for a season while some have been in it for the long haul. Needless to say, I also came across a few pictures of boys who had broken my heart and if I’m being completely honest, there were a few hearts that I probably broke along the way too. Each has left a mark on my life and I hope they would say the same about me.

Time flies, there’s no doubt about that but isn’t it something that you don’t truly treasure a moment until it’s over? Granted, I don’t remember my early childhood but thankfully Mama and Daddy took plenty of pictures and have told me so many stories that I feel like I remember them. What I wouldn’t give to go back and tell that insecure high school that everything will indeed work itself out.

I’ve been on this planet for 26 years and some odd months and it’s obvious God has blessed me in many ways, most of which I have taken for granted.

Does any of this sound familiar?

You see, we all have a story and it continues to be written every single day by the choices we make. Those choices end up making us whether we choose to believe that or not. Honestly, there are some days I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders and feel like a grandma (my friends can totally back me on this). However, I’m so grateful for the lessons I have learned and while I wish I hadn’t had to have experienced the heartbreak I wouldn’t trade it for the world because these are lessons that I not only get to share with you but with my kids one day when they feel like they are facing this for the first time.

So here it is.. a letter that I wish my younger self would have known.

Dear younger me,


First and foremost,  you have things to offer this world that God has blessed you with. He gave you specific interests and strengths so spend time crafting those instead of wasting time trying to be like someone else, chances are they want what you have.

That guy that has your attention and maybe even your heart? Please remember that God looks at the heart, not appearance ( 1 Samuel 16:7). Does he live a life for Christ or  for himself? (This is a tough me I know!)

When it comes to any type of relationship please remember, it is true to never judge someone based on what chapter you have walked in on their life but it is also important to never justify their actions if they never change. Praying for the best for someone is great. Seeing the best in someone is a strength. But never let the idea of seeing the best version of someone blind you from seeing who they truly are. Never become less than who you are for someone who means more to you than you do to them.

Please remember to give as much grace to yourself as you extend to others. Unfortunately not everyone will appreciate you but I promise if you just do you people will notice. So please just remember to love deeply no matter how many times you have been hurt.

Stop trying to live by the standards and expectations of this world (this is another tough one!). The truth is, God has a specific plan and journey that He has called you to take part in and I promise it’s anything but boring.

And if anyone hasn’t told you lately…

 You are enough.

You are amazing.

And you are loved more than you can imagine!

So take a deep breath, smile and praise the Good Lord that time does indeed have a way of showing you what truly matters.

Much love,

Your future self

I really do pray you that this post helped you out. Feel free to like, comment, and share it.

P.S. To the girls in this picture (or to anyone else who is reading this) remember that you are indeed one of a kind and oh, so priceless! 😊