Hello lovely friends! I hope everything is going well for y’all! This one of my favorite times of the year- the cool, crisp air, football season in full swing (Roll tide!), and of course my birthday! This year was a milestone of some sorts because I turned the big 2-5 but I felt kind of torn about it. I used to think 25 sounded so old and I started freak out and wonder if I had managed to accomplish anything in a quarter of a century. I may or not have even read a book titled “Advice for the Twenty- Something girl” because I was afraid I was going through a quarter-life crisis. Before you laugh or roll your eyes, I have realized that 25 is not indeed (that) old and I do hope you enjoy seeing some of the life lessons I have managed to learn and hope you can learn from too! 🙂
1. Seek God first.
I especially love to do this over my morning cup of coffee. There is nothing like starting the day off with my Creator. I have found that when I do this, I am more likely to seek him throughout the day and see his fingerprints throughout my day.
2.Enjoy the little things.
For me, it’s that nice cup of coffee or the sound of a kid’s laughter. When you start to appreciate the little things you will see how wonderful life really is.
3.Do what you love.
You have gifts and abilities. Use them and it will seldom feel like work.
4. Stop trying to please everyone- it’s impossible.
I’ll admit this one is a work in progress. However, I have learned the past few years that there will always be people who think they can do things better than you. Just work hard, be honest, and success WILL follow.
5. Don’t let other people’s opinion of you define you.
That is simply what it is- their opinion. It doesn’t make it true and if you stay a person of character, the truth will always reveal itself.
6. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
You get absolutely nowhere when you think negatively. Just start focusing on what you can do and keep a positive attitude and you will be surprised how far that gets you.
7.Laugh at yourself.
I get it! Life can be REALLY hard at times. But if you are like me, when you finally let the quest for perfection go and just admit that you make mistakes, it gets a little easier. And let’s face it, life is full of funny moments. Enjoy them wholeheartedly so you can remember them when times get hard.
8.Have a conversation with a child.
Speaking of laughing, when is the last time you talked with a child? I am blessed to be a preschool teacher and our conversations are never short of entertaining. I dare you to try it. From the mispronounced words to the brutal honesty they give you, you will walk away amused and if you’re lucky- humbled.
9. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Oh, how I need to be reminded of this every single day! It is such a waste of time and energy wanting to be like someone else or wanting what they have. The ironic thing about it is they may want to be like you or have what you have. We ALL have admirable traits and if we take the time to compliment each other and encourage one another instead of hiding behind a mask of jealousy and insecurity we would be a lot better off!
10. Remember- not everything is at seems, especially on social media.
In the day and age where we are glued to our phones and have more opportunities to “connect” more than ever, why is it that the more followers and likes we get only leaves us wanting something more? Don’t get hung up if your life doesn’t seem to look as bright as your friends Instagram filter. We only post what we choose to post, not every single moment of every day (or at least, I hope you don’t!).
11. Use social media as a tool, not a diary.
No one needs to know all of your dirty laundry. And remember, even though you aren’t face-to-face with someone, remember the Golden Rule.
12. Listen to the advice you are given.
My pastor always says we go through different things to help others so whether it’s learning a new skill for a job or getting relationship advice, take the time to truly listen to the ones who have been down the road you want to pursue. It can save you a lot of future heartbreak!
13. Apply what you have learned.
You can have all the knowledge and advice in the world but it does no good unless you apply it.
14. Encourage others every chance you get.
Let’s face it, we live in a world that seems to be quick to criticize. Break the cycle and be the light to every person you see!
15. Be careful of the company you keep.
I’ll admit, this is a tough one. But like it or not, we are influenced by the people we are around. Make sure they are pulling you up instead of putting you (and others) down.
16. Don’t keep people a priority in your life that only keep you an option in theirs.
This has always been a tricky one for me. After I have learned the lesson, I kick myself for not doing it sooner but still find myself not wanting to apply it to certain people. I have learned that it comes down to respect though. When you truly begin to respect yourself, this rule takes care of itself. Don’t settle for second best just because you are afraid of missing out on something greater.
17. Challenge yourself.
Whether that’s going back to school, making a healthy lifestyle change, or just reading more, it’s always good to set goals and never to become complacent.
18. Try something new.
Whether it’s a new food (maybe even just ordering something different- Can I get an amen?) or learning a new language- one of the beautiful things about life is that everyday is a fresh start and full of potential to try new things.
19. Budget. Budget. Budget.
This one isn’t always easy to stick with. Believe me, I get it… The moment you start to budget you feel like you are limiting yourself but I am learning the smarter I am with my money the less stressed I am about it. And if you mess up, give yourself grace and try again! This is the key to making good decisions and if done effectively can help you tremendously. Don’t forget to tithe!
20. Travel! Travel! Travel!
This one sounds expensive but it doesn’t have to be. It can be something as simple as going to your favorite restaurant with friends or flying halfway across the country, go to all the places you can. Both make priceless memories.
21. Don’t be afraid to spend some time alone.
This is how you truly get to know who are and what you want. And sometimes you just need a good nap to make yourself feel better.
22. Stand up for your beliefs.
Like the old saying goes, “Whatever you are, be a good one.” We may not all agree, but it’s easier to respect someone when they stand firm in their beliefs instead of going back and forth.
23. Find joyfulness, not just happiness.
Happiness is only temporary, joyfulness lasts in all circumstances. 🙂
24. Remember- “This too shall pass.”
Whatever season of life you are in- good or bad- it WILL pass. So enjoy every moment, learn from your mistakes, and know that the good and the bad are only temporary.
25. Finally, remember the best is yet to come!
When you look back, think of all you have accomplished and strive to reach many more goals! Enjoy every second and just remember, the world needs you and your awesome self. 🙂
And maybe the best lesson I learned this year is that being 25 isn’t anything to be scared of at all! 🙂