As I was scrolling through different podcasts the other day, I came across one titled “Singleness, Dating, Love, and Marriage.” It was from UA’s The Well series and having spent many Wednesday nights at those services as an undergrad at UA, I thought I would take a trip down memory lane and listen to this message.
As promised it talked about each topic, starting with singleness and I heard that verse from 1 Corinthians 7 that always makes me cringe.
“8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.” 1 Corinthians 7:8
Let me start off by saying that being single at the age of 26 was definitely not what I had planned for my life. I have always wanted to find someone to settle down with and have a family and often times I have found it frustrating, and quite honestly, disheartening to still be in this waiting phase. ( And no, this is not a way of saying I’m desperate to go out with anyone.)
But having grown up in church all my life I have heard it all…
“God knows what He’s doing.”
“Just focus on your relationship with Him first and then He will send the right one.”
“Just be patient.”
Now let me be clear, I have no doubt that God’s plans are perfect but the hurt is real when I see most of my friends with spouses and families of their own. I am left feeling forgotten and looked over.
It’s in these moments that my imperfectness and impatience tend to cloud that bigger picture God has for my life.
I want to have faith that everything is going to work out the way I imagine but I also just want a clear audible voice with a play by play telling me exactly how to get there. And it’s in doing this that I realize how shallow my faith can be.
Why is it I can trust God with my life eternally but I have trouble trusting him with this detail of my life?
I think back to when Joseph spent all those years behind bars for a crime he didn’t commit.
Or when the Israelites roamed the desert for 40 years due to their stubborness and disobedience.
Let’s not forget when Daniel was thrown into a den of varocious, hungry lions.
These people had doubts and fears but they also had the same God you and I do if you call Him your Savior and Lord. He promises to deliver us just as He delivered them and despite my impatience, I have known my God to be faithful and true time and time again.
I don’t know if you can relate to this at all. Maybe your journey is similar to mine or maybe it’s something different altogether but I think we can all agree that we all have that “something” we have surrendered but all too often find ourselves picking back up and trying to fix on our own.
I would love to hear your take on this and even hear what God has done in your life to show you that He indeed makes everything perfect in His time!